Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

Couples counseling requires a commitment from both partners to enter into the process. You’ll both need to reveal yourself, untangle the expectations and projections that create conflict, and re-pattern unhealthy behaviors. Couples therapy offers a road map to forge a new image of yourself and your partnership.

Relationships are incredibly complex. They require work. Maintaining love, intimacy, and connection is an ongoing project and no couple is immune to difficulties. Love is not enough to bind a relationship together — especially in a world that changes so rapidly. Couples need resources to become resilient and skills to become emotionally intelligent so their relationship can grow and ultimately thrive.

My approach to couples therapy is to uncover the structure of conflict as well as the underlying attachment needs that are not being met. Then we’ll move into emotional skillfulness and mindfulness techniques that can help couples identify their emotional reactivity and behavioral patterns to diffuse conflict more easily. Once these skills are in place, we can focus our attention on meaningful repairs, attunement, and connection that create the foundation for problem-solving from a place of empathy and trust.

Common Issues in Couples & Marriage Therapy

• Deepening Emotional Intelligence & Attunement

• Working through patterns of mis-communication

• Perpetual conflict and power struggles

• Emotional withdrawal & stalemates

• Stress & Work/ Life Balance

• Complex Trauma

• Infidelity & Betrayal

• Sexual Intimacy Issues & Desire Discrepancy

• Disagreements over values and priorities including: money, sex, parenting, and creating time for each other.

• Working through Codependency and Attachment Issues

• Premarital Counseling: Defining Commitment & Trust

• Discernment Therapy, Divorce Recovery & Conscious Uncoupling

Whether you are considering the next level of commitment, are in a committed relationship or marriage, considering separation, or processing a divorce, therapy can be deeply empowering and healing. I also treat same sex couples, family relationships, siblings, and business partnerships who are in need of fine tuning. 

Online Relationship Coaching

Relationship coaching is a service for individual clients outside the state of California who need solution-focused, goal-directed support. This is not intended to replace working with a licensed psychotherapist if you are struggling with mental illness.