Santa Monica Therapist for Individuals & Couples

Relationship Expert, Author & Speaker Helping You Build Secure, Lasting Love

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Meaningful relationships require emotional skills most of us were never taught. Through therapy, coaching, and transformational relationship work, Shira Myrow helps individuals and couples build deeper trust, intimacy, and relational repair.

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Nationally recognized therapist, relationship expert, AUTHOR, and co-founder of I-Psychedelic Therapy

Featured in TEDx, Goop & Leading Conversations on Relationships.

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Meet Shira Myrow, LMFT

PSYCHOTHERAPIST. PSYCHEDELIC INTEGRATION FACILITATOR. AUTHOR. SPEAKER.

Shira Myrow's work occupies a specific and largely unexplored intersection: the psychedelic renaissance, the developmental psychology of long-term love, and a cultural moment that has made arousal effortless and intimacy optional. No other voice in the current conversation brings together clinical authority, personal narrative, and an original framework for what determines whether love transforms or simply opens and closes.

biography

I am a psychotherapist and relationship expert based in Santa Monica, CA. I have spent years working at the intersection of love, trauma, and attachment, helping individuals and couples heal relational wounds and build secure, loving relationships.

My work blends emotional depth with clinical rigor, drawing from advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Jungian Depth Psychology, the Gottman Method, and Relational Life Therapy. As the daughter and survivor of a treatment-resistant schizophrenic mother, it has been my journey and my life's work to support couples and individuals in transforming traumatic experiences and challenges into redemptive narratives and healthier relationships.

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A Forthcoming Book on Relationships, Healing & Transformation.

Shira is currently writing What Love Asks of Us After the Opening, a narrative exploration of intimacy, attachment, and the transformative work of relationships.

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Therapy for Individuals, Couples & Relationships

 Telehealth available or in person sessions in Santa Monica, CA.

Couples Therapy & Relationship Coaching

Couples therapy offers a structured, compassionate space to work through the challenges that keep you disconnected, whether it’s unresolved conflict, emotional distance or communication issues. You’ll learn how to skillfully navigate your relationship with emotional intelligence and resilience. 

Together, we’ll get to the root of the attachment strategies, trauma imprints, and habits that fuel your repetitive cycles. By taking ownership of these dynamics, you can rebuild the deeper structure of your relationship, so it becomes a source of love, true support and stability.

Are you stuck in patterns you can’t seem to shift?
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Individual Therapy & Coaching

Even the most self-aware people hit moments they can’t break through, no matter how much insight or effort they possess. In therapy, we trace the thread from what feels stuck to what’s been unseen, unspoken, or unresolved.  Often, the issue isn’t so much a lack of understanding, but a deeper pattern at play: unprocessed relational wounds, subtle self-betrayals, or early survival strategies that once kept you safe, but now keep you in place.

I work with high-functioning, thoughtful clients who are facing inflection points  in their relationships, work, or identity  and need skilled support to move through it. This work is direct, collaborative, and designed to help you reclaim clarity, choice, and return to yourself.

If you’re carrying old ways of being that keep you trapped, this is an invitation to reclaim who you fully are.

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Psychedelic Integration

Integration is where the real work and the real gift of the psychedelic journey begins.

It’s the slow, sacred process of turning insight into embodiment, of weaving the experience into your nervous system, your psyche, your relational field. This is what allows the experience to reshape how you live, how you love, how you move through the world.

Integration doesn’t mean going back to life as it was. It’s a slow unfolding into who you’re becoming.

After the intensity of expanded states, integration is the tender and deliberate act of giving shape to what was revealed. This is where insights are metabolized, emotions are honored, and meaning is made, not in theory, but in lived experience. My integration services offer a safe, non-judgmental, and confidential space to process non-ordinary states and the potential for personal transformation and understanding.

Please note I do not condone  the use of illegal substances per federal and state law.

Ready to deepen your integration?

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“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”

– Marcel Proust

Testimonials

  • “We came to Shira after a painful infidelity that nearly destroyed our marriage. Shira helped us recognize how we were both hijacking the process by clinging to feelings of resentment and victimhood. She showed us how to rebuild trust in such tangible ways. No one has ever done such a deep dive on the architecture of trust with us. We finally have a relationship that truly feels secure. We’re so incredibly grateful for her wisdom and guidance.”

    — Nicholle & Aaron S.

  • “I can’t express how much gratitude I have for Shira. She didn’t give up on us even when our other therapists did. We couldn’t seem to overcome our perpetual conflict patterns. Shira not only taught us the skills to manage conflict and repair-–but got to the root of our individual traumas that were causing so much conflict between us. I wish we found her years ago.”

    — Ellen T. & Nora M.

  • “I never thought I would ever graduate from therapy. I’ve been going my entire life and I thought my issues would follow me around and undermine all of my significant relationships. It felt like freedom to arrive at a place where I finally felt confident, whole and unbroken and most importantly, worthy of love.”

    — Emily W. 

  • "I was devastated when my marriage fell apart. Shira helped us uncouple with such tenderness, dignity and compassion. We parent more consciously and amicably than we did before. I truly believe the relationship audit we did prepared the way for me to meet my current partner. . Facing the very thing that terrified me the most opened the door to a second chance at love."

    — E. K.

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Articles, interviews, and talks on TEDx, Goop, and more: insightful explorations of connection, trauma, and transformative therapy.

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Whether you’re struggling with habitual conflict or craving emotional depth, this is a space to rediscover trust, empowerment, and belonging.

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